Jesus and Peter
15 When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you (agape) me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I (phileo) you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.” 16 He said to him a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you (agape) me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I (phileo) you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” 17 He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you (phileo) me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” and he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I (phileo) you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep. 18 Truly, truly, I say to you, when you were young, you used to dress yourself and walk wherever you wanted, but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will dress you and carry you where you do not want to go.” 19 (This he said to show by what kind of death he was to glorify God.) And after saying this he said to him, “Follow me.”
2 different words are used for love here in this passage:
1. Agape = "to love dearly" or "unconditionally"; the greatest of loves
2. Phileo = "to love as a friend" or "to like"
In this conversation, the resurrected, just died on the cross Jesus is asking Peter, the just denied Jesus 3 times Peter..."do you love me dearly?" But Peter isn't there yet. He doesn't love Jesus with all of his heart yet. To say so would be a lie. So Peter just responds with the truth. "No, Jesus, but I do like you."
Where are you at? Be honest like Peter. Do you love Jesus? Or do you just like Him? A very serious question. But one we must answer! Our souls depend on it.
So what's the point? --> If we love Jesus, we'll want to and we will spend time with him.